Attending an Indian Wedding for the First Time? Here’s Everything You Need to Know

Attending a South Asian wedding for the first time can be a memorable and exciting experience, but it can also be a bit overwhelming if you're unfamiliar with the customs. Here are some key things to know to help you feel prepared:

1. Dress Code

• Vibrant Attire: South Asian weddings are known for their bright, colorful attire, so feel free to embrace bold colors like red, gold, green, and royal blue. If you’re comfortable, consider wearing traditional outfits. For women, options include sarees, lehengas, or salwar suits. Men can wear kurtas or sherwanis. Outfits can be pricey, especially if it's a multiple day event. Click here for some budget friendly options. 
• Comfortable Footwear: South Asian weddings often have ceremonies where you may need to remove your shoes, so pick shoes that are easy to slip on and off.

2. Multiple Days of Festivities

• South Asian weddings usually involve several events over multiple days, such as the Mehendi (henna ceremony), Sangeet (musical evening), Wedding Ceremony, and Reception.
• Each event has its own significance and often a different dress code. It’s common to see the most formal attire on the wedding day itself, while other events may have themes or specific colors.

3. Be Ready for Extended Celebrations

• South Asian weddings are filled with rituals that can last for hours. The actual wedding ceremony might involve extended prayers and blessings, so be prepared to sit or stand for a while.
• Most events are relaxed in terms of time, so if an event is scheduled for 5 PM, it may not begin exactly on time.

4. Cultural Etiquette

• Respectful Observance: It’s okay if you don’t understand all the rituals—just observe respectfully, and feel free to ask someone nearby for a quick explanation.
• Show Respect in Religious Spaces: If the wedding is held in a temple, gurdwara, or mosque, you may need to cover your head or take off your shoes. Look for cues from others.

5. Food and Hospitality

• Amazing Food: South Asian weddings are famous for their delicious and diverse food. Expect a variety of dishes, from appetizers to desserts, with plenty of vegetarian and sometimes non-vegetarian options.
• Serving Style: Meals are often served buffet-style, so you can sample a little bit of everything. Alcohol may or may not be served depending on cultural and religious norms.

6. Dancing and Celebrations

• The Sangeet is often a lively event featuring music and dancing, with performances by friends and family. Don't be afraid to join in, even if you’re not familiar with the dance styles—it's all about celebrating.
• The Reception usually has a lot of dancing as well, so feel free to participate!

7. Gifts and Giving

• Gifts: Cash gifts are common, especially given in envelopes. Gift amounts often end in “1” (e.g., 101, 501) as a symbol of good luck. Some couples also create online registries.
• Blessings: It's also common to give blessings or a thoughtful message to the newlyweds.

Attending a South Asian wedding is a unique opportunity to experience a vibrant blend of culture, rituals, and traditions. Just go with an open mind, enjoy the food, dancing, and joyful atmosphere, and don’t hesitate to ask questions if you’re curious about something!